Punishment at an early age- reshaping our lives

Corporal punishments to discipline a child, the child knows what he is experiencing is wrong

“Stop your crying” “I do this because I love you”

Beating children is not normal

Beating children for spilled water, a broken glass, the inability to keep quiet or still is not normal. These kind of patterns lead to conditioned compliance, where the child knows he has to act a certain way but the only reason he is doing so is because he is afraid of the beating. The result of similar deeply rooted trauma affects future relationships, interactions, and decisions for a long-life. The long term impact of being beaten, then forced to hush, and even smile about, turns children into “world-class people pleasers” for the most part of their lives and these children would struggle to develop boundaries or say “no” in confidence even when they have to.

Millions of children are treated in this pattern by central figures in their lives which eventually leads in the inculcation of their belief; I am not valued. Eventually when they do grow up, they make it to the captain of their ship but there will always be crevices in their personalities because of the repeated "emotional fractures, early beatings and splintered connections."

"Effective discipline is not about punishment; it's about teaching self-control, responsibility, and respect for others."

Room for Change

There is hope for everyone out there and this is because of the unique capability of our brains to adapt and the ever-encompassing ability of a child to forgive but it is very important to understand the impact that stress or early trauma has on the future of children, and in understanding why they behave the way they do.

Through stronger faith and more resilient patience, we need to inculcate in our children a sense of personal worth that will ultimately transform in better responses to circumstances, situations and most importantly; relationships.

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