"When your baby cries, remember that it's not a sign of weakness or failure, but a natural and important part of their development."

Parenting the crying infant

Even though you may want to have your baby smiling at you all the time, this is far from reality and not to burst your bubble but it is very unlikely that this may happen for you anytime soon, and by anytime soon we mean a good 4 months. However, there are a lot of ways that you may want to start soothing your baby.

Crying conveys important information about how a child is feeling and thinking. When observed carefully these patterns can tell parents and doctors much more than just “crying.” When crying is extremely chaotic and inconsolable, it may lead to the parent or caregiver to become stressed, overwhelmed and put the baby at risk for abuse (Debra M. Zeifman, 2017) . Careful reviews of infant crying have concluded that their crying is a “graded signal” conveying how distressed certain babies are and not what is causing their displeasure such as hunger, pleasure and pain.

Crying is one of the main ways through which a baby communicates with his or her caregiver. Responding promptly and sensitively to your child’s crying may lead to reduction in crying and accelerated linguistics development. This said, it is difficult for caregivers to change their preferred style of care but for achieving overall low levels of crying in early postnatal weeks, parents need to be more sensitive and prompt in soothing their baby. It is highly recommended to conduct a sensitive parenting environment as this has proven to benefit parents and infants in the long term.

  • Hunger
  • A dirty or wet nappy
  • Fatigue or being tired
  • Wind/flatulence
  • Extremes of temperature
  • Boredom
  • Overstimulation, hyperactivity

  • If your baby is feeding through breastmilk, let your baby suckle at your breast
  • Playing gentle noise or music may be helpful for some babies, if not for all
  • Some babies have a favorite blanket or comforter and providing this at this time may help as well
  • Rock your baby in a sling if this is something that the baby is used to doing, move your baby around, help him or her sing or talk, or maybe sing a lullaby to them while they are rocking in their sling
  • Try rocking your baby forwards and backwards in the pram, or take your baby out for a walk or a drive. For newborns 30 minutes may be enough while babies may take 2 hours to calm down.
  • Try stroking your babies’ back to and fro firmly and rhythmically and hold them against you, trying to keep as much contact between baby and you.
  • Try a warm bath, with toys that are your baby’s favorite already.